What are the best free gay dating apps besides Grindr?

Started by Kevin Hunt 18 Jun 2026 5 replies Category Dating Apps adult dating online hookups adult chat
#1 · Thread starter

Genuine question about best free gay dating apps besides Grindr — I would rather hear from people than from a review site.

The reviews I've read on dating apps are either three years old or obviously paid.

Any thoughts on best free gay dating apps besides Grindr would help me stop going in circles.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on dating platforms — that lines up with what I saw.

The deciding detail with dating platforms was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

The thing to watch on dating platforms is that anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

Practical tip for dating platforms: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

Happy to be corrected on any of besides Grindr.

  • OkCupid — strong for anyone with specific criteria, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Grindr — the default for a reason, from what members here report
  • Hinge — low volume, higher intent, and it has been consistent since

A friend of mine swears by flamedate.online, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.

#3 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about dating platforms — that's not what I found.

What I wish someone had told me about dating platforms: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

I will update this if my view on best free gay dating apps besides Grindr changes.

Adding Datenest (datenest.site) for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.

#4 · Member

Worth flagging with matching apps — some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.

Before you commit to matching apps, treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

I would not generalise about matching apps without knowing whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away first.

The part nobody mentions about matching apps is how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

The real differentiator across matching apps turned out to be whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

Worth flagging with matching apps — the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.

Not the last word on besides Grindr by any means.

I also keep half an eye on Flurrydate — flurrydate.online — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

You could add Souldate to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.

#5 · Member

I'd not generalise about swipe apps without knowing how many people locally are already on it first.

What changed my mind on swipe apps was whether it worked without installing anything.

Before you commit to swipe apps, test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Practical tip for swipe apps: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

That is roughly where I sit on best free gay dating apps besides Grindr today.

#6 · Member

Used the app question for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Be aware when using the app question that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

Worth doing early on the app question: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Your mileage on best free gay dating apps besides Grindr may differ, obviously.

I also keep half an eye on EZHookups (ezhookups.online) — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

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