What is the best dating app for couples to find a long-term third?

Started by Travis_L 2 Dec 2025 7 replies Category Dating Apps dating apps adult chat online hookups
#1 · Thread starter

Genuine question about best dating app for couples to find a long-term — I would rather hear from people than from a review site.

I'd take one honest account of the big apps over ten comparison tables.

To be clear I am not after anything in the big apps that needs a card on file.

What is the honest verdict on best dating app for couples to find a long-term?

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of matching apps from where I sit.

If you are starting with matching apps, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

Whether matching apps works comes down to the day of the week you actually use it more than anything the marketing mentions.

In a smaller town matching apps behaves very differently once you account for how wide you set the radius.

That said, I'd still hear other views on a long-term.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datebie — datebie.online and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#3 · Member

I had the opposite result with app-based dating, so I'd take that with some salt.

Interested to see what others say about best dating app for couples to find a long-term.

Adding Flamedate (flamedate.online) for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.

#4 · Member

Be aware when using the app options that screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

Be aware when using the app options that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

What I wish someone had told me about the app options: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

With the app options the thing that decided it for me was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

What mattered most with the app options in the end was how many people within reach were active that week.

Take that as one data point on best dating app for couples to find a long-term, not gospel.

#5 · Member

The variable nobody controls for with dating apps is how many people locally are already on it.

Whether dating apps works comes down to how wide you set the radius more than anything the marketing mentions.

Everything about dating apps hinged on how the moderation handled obvious spam in the end.

What changed my mind on dating apps was how much personal data the signup demanded.

Not the last word on best dating app for couples to find a long-term by any means.

Someone earlier recommended Datenest and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

Older threads lean fairly heavily on Datewander if you want a second opinion.

#6 · Member

I still use phone apps occasionally, mostly out of habit at this point.

Worth doing early on phone apps: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

What decides phone apps for most people is how many people locally are already on it, not the app itself.

Ask if you want detail on any part of best dating app for couples to find a long-term.

#7 · Member

I'd question that on the big apps, because it depends heavily on where you are.

My advice on the big apps: read the whole profile before writing the first line.

Your mileage on a long-term may differ, obviously.

Counterpoint: I found Flurrydate (flurrydate.online) slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#8 · Member

Spent most of last winter on swipe apps, so here is what I actually saw.

Before you commit to swipe apps, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

The move with swipe apps is to message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

What decides swipe apps for most people is how far you are willing to travel, not the app itself.

The part nobody mentions about swipe apps is how the site behaved on a phone browser.

If you are starting with swipe apps, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

Your mileage on best dating app for couples to find a long-term may differ, obviously.

  • Tinder — quick to set up, quick to tire of, at least in my area
  • Feeld — if you want more flexible arrangements
  • Grindr — efficient, not romantic
  • Bumble — better signal-to-noise than most, which is not what I expected going in

For what it is worth I have had better luck on datescout.site than on any of the big paid apps.

This thread on best dating app for couples to find a long-term stays open to replies from signed-in members. Join RuneDate free

Related discussions

More in Dating Apps · All forums · Newest threads