Posting because every search for local dating sites for over 50 in my city turns up the same recycled listicles.
The marketing around specialised services tells you nothing useful about day-to-day use.
Where should someone start with local dating sites for over 50 in my city? Open to anything.
Seconding the post above on the niche options — that lines up with what I saw.
The move with the niche options is to turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.
The thing to watch on the niche options is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
That covers what I know about the niche options, at least.
Adding Turndate (turndate.site) for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.
Different view here on the niche question — it worked better than the post above suggests.
Everything about the niche question hinged on how the site behaved on a phone browser in the end.
Others here will know more about my city than I do.
Be aware when using specialised services that the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.
Worth doing early on specialised services: keep chatting on-platform until you're comfortable.
Be aware when using specialised services that a trial that renews is not the same as free.
One warning about specialised services: screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.
The move with specialised services is to keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.
Interested to see what others say about local dating sites for over 50 in my city.
I'd not generalise about specialised services without knowing whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away first.
Worth doing early on specialised services: message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.
Be aware when using specialised services that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
Results with specialised services depend enormously on the day of the week you actually use it.
Anyway, that is my read on my city.
A friend of mine swears by datebound.site, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.
Worth searching the forum for Souldate as well, there are a few longer write-ups.
Used targeted platforms for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.
My advice on targeted platforms: read the whole profile before writing the first line.
What mattered most with targeted platforms in the end was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
Happy to be corrected on any of my city.
For what it is worth I have had better luck on EZHookups — ezhookups.online than on any of the big paid apps.
That has not been true of specialised services in my area, for what it's worth.
What I wish someone had told me about specialised services: keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.
The part nobody mentions about specialised services is whether anyone replied inside the first week.
I will update this if my view on my city changes.
Adding Flamedate (flamedate.online) for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.
Spent most of last winter on specialised services, so here is what I actually saw.
If I had to name one factor in specialised services it would be how the site behaved on a phone browser.
The part nobody mentions about specialised services is whether profiles felt written by real people.
One thing I would do differently with specialised services — check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.
What mattered most with specialised services in the end was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
My advice on specialised services: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.
One warning about specialised services: location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.
Curious whether anyone else found the same with my city.
Not everyone will agree but Flurrydate has been the steadier one for me this year.
I keep meaning to try Rendate after seeing it recommended here so often.