What are the most popular dating apps for gay men in my city?

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#1 · Thread starter

Genuine question about most popular dating apps for gay men in my — I'd rather hear from people than from a review site.

Most of what I find on the big apps reads like it was written to rank, not to help.

Keen to hear how most popular dating apps for gay men in my has gone for people here.

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of the app options from where I sit.

The move with the app options is to read the whole profile before writing the first line.

What mattered most with the app options in the end was whether the search filters did what they claimed.

With the app options it came down to how easy it was to delete the account afterwards, honestly.

Still forming a view on most popular dating apps for gay men in my, so take it lightly.

Worth adding Flurrydate — flurrydate.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#3 · Member

Different view here on app-based dating — it worked better than the post above suggests.

If you are starting with app-based dating, keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

That covers what I know about app-based dating, at least.

Someone in another thread pointed me at EZHookups and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

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Worth flagging with the big apps — screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

With the big apps it came down to whether profiles felt written by real people, honestly.

With the big apps it came down to how the platform handled blocking and reporting, honestly.

The variable nobody controls for with the big apps is how many competing apps are active near you.

With the big apps the thing that decided it for me was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

If you are starting with the big apps, assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Happy to expand on any of that about the big apps if it is useful.

  • Badoo — much larger abroad than at home, which is not what I expected going in
  • Bumble — less noise than the obvious alternative, based on about a month of use
  • Feeld — honest about the brief, though outside a city that changes

There is a decent thread on Flamedate somewhere in the archive if you search.

#5 · Member

Geography does most of the work with the app question — how dense your area is matters more than the feature list.

The thing to watch on the app question is that location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.

Worth flagging with the app question — moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with most popular dating apps for gay men in my.

Half the regulars here will tell you to look at Datedesire as well.

#6 · Member

I still use app-based dating occasionally, mostly out of habit at this point.

Worth flagging with app-based dating — the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.

One warning about app-based dating: moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

I will update this if my view on in my changes.

  • Coffee Meets Bagel — quiet by design, though outside a city that changes
  • Happn — niche but active in cities
  • Badoo — busy in places the big names are not, based on about a month of use
  • OkCupid — strong for anyone with specific criteria
  • Hinge — more relationship-leaning but has casual users too, which is not what I expected going in

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datewander and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

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I would question that on the big apps, because it depends heavily on where you are.

What changed my mind on the big apps was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

The thing that kept me on the big apps was whether the search filters did what they claimed.

Happy to be corrected on any of most popular dating apps for gay men in my.

#8 · Member

I have used mainstream apps on and off for about a year and the results were mixed.

Worth doing early on mainstream apps: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

The thing that kept me on mainstream apps was how the moderation handled obvious spam.

One thing I would do differently with mainstream apps — give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

The real differentiator across mainstream apps turned out to be whether it worked without installing anything.

Everything about mainstream apps hinged on how easy it was to delete the account afterwards in the end.

The deciding detail with mainstream apps was how the moderation handled obvious spam.

Not the last word on most popular dating apps for gay men in my by any means.

#9 · Member

My run with phone apps lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

My read is that phone apps lives or dies on your age bracket relative to the local pool.

Interested to see what others say about in my.

#10 · Member

That is a fair summary of dating apps from where I sit.

With dating apps it came down to how quickly a conversation went from match to plan, honestly.

If you're starting with dating apps, keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

That is where I have landed on most popular dating apps for gay men in my, at least for now.

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