What are the best dating apps to use if you're tired of Tinder?

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#1 · Thread starter

Long-time lurker, first post, and it is about best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

Most of what I find on dating apps reads like it was written to rank, not to help.

I am in my thirties, if that changes what people would recommend for best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

Anyone who has dealt with best dating apps to use if you're tired of recently, what would you do differently?

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of matching apps from where I sit.

One thing I'd do differently with matching apps — assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Practical tip for matching apps: keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

With matching apps it came down to whether the free tier let you see who liked you, honestly.

That said, I would still hear other views on best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#3 · Member

I had the opposite result with app-based dating, so I would take that with some salt.

The deciding detail with app-based dating was whether the match volume held up past the first week.

Anyway, that is my read on best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

For what it is worth I have had better luck on datebie.online than on any of the big paid apps.

#4 · Member

Worth flagging with mainstream apps — some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

Worth doing early on mainstream apps: screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

Judging mainstream apps without knowing the day of the week you actually use it is close to meaningless.

If you are starting with mainstream apps, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

The thing to watch on mainstream apps is that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

Worth doing early on mainstream apps: give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

That said, I'd still hear other views on best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datenest — datenest.site and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

A few people swear by Turndate, and a few others really do not.

#5 · Member

The variable nobody controls for with swipe apps is local population age spread.

Anyone claiming swipe apps works everywhere has not tested it against the day of the week you actually use it.

That is roughly where I sit on best dating apps to use if you're tired of today.

#6 · Member

Used matching apps for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Two people can have opposite experiences of matching apps purely because of how dense your area is.

The move with matching apps is to finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

The thing to watch on matching apps is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

Hope some of that helps with best dating apps to use if you're tired of.

Worth adding rendate.site to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#7 · Member

Not sure that is right about the big apps, at least not everywhere.

Half the arguments about the big apps would end if people mentioned local population age spread up front.

That is where I've landed on tired of, at least for now.

Not everyone will agree but Datelink — datelink.online has been the steadier one for me this year.

#8 · Member

Tried the app options twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.

What changed my mind on the app options was how many accounts looked dormant.

The thing that kept me on the app options was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

The thing to watch on the app options is that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

Judging the app options without knowing how wide you set the radius is close to meaningless.

My advice on the app options: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

That covers what I know about the app options, at least.

  • Coffee Meets Bagel — low volume, higher effort
  • Feeld — smaller but very self-selecting, on a phone browser anyway
  • OkCupid — the matching questions still earn their place, over roughly six weeks
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