I gave the free question a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.
Before you commit to the free question, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.
Judging the free question without knowing the time of year is close to meaningless.
One thing I'd do differently with the free question — message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.
My advice on the free question: read the whole profile before writing the first line.
Be aware when using the free question that some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.
The thing to watch on the free question is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
That covers what I know about the free question, at least.
- Facebook Dating — quiet in some regions, based on about a month of use
- Bumble — the timer forces things along, in a mid-sized town at least
- OkCupid — older crowd in some areas
- Happn — proximity-based, which is either charming or unsettling
- Tinder — still the default for volume, which is not what I expected going in
I also keep half an eye on datenest.site — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.