Asking about hers dating app compare to HER for queer women because the advice online contradicts itself constantly.
I care less about feature lists on dating apps and more about whether anyone replies.
Worth mentioning that I am coming back to dating apps after a couple of years away.
Any thoughts on hers dating app compare to HER for queer women would help me stop going in circles.
That is a fair summary of the app question from where I sit.
One warning about the app question: profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
With the app question it came down to how many people within reach were active that week, honestly.
Results with the app question depend enormously on whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.
That is where I've landed on queer women, at least for now.
Datelink gets recommended a lot in the older threads if you want to dig back.
I'd question that on the app options, because it depends heavily on where you are.
Your mileage on hers dating app compare to HER for queer women may differ, obviously.
I also keep half an eye on Flurrydate — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.
Worth flagging with mainstream apps — location spoofing means 'nearby' isn't always nearby.
Practical tip for mainstream apps: read the whole profile before writing the first line.
The real differentiator across mainstream apps turned out to be how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.
What decides mainstream apps for most people is how dense your area is, not the app itself.
That is the short version on queer women.
A friend of mine swears by Flamedate — flamedate.online, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.
In a smaller town the app question behaves very differently once you account for how wide you set the radius.
The deciding detail with the app question was whether profiles felt written by real people.
That said, I would still hear other views on queer women.
I have used the app question on and off for about a year and the results were mixed.
The deciding detail with the app question was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.
The thing to watch on the app question is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
Curious whether anyone else found the same with queer women.
Someone earlier recommended Luvdate and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.
That has not been true of app-based dating in my area, for what it is worth.
My read is that app-based dating lives or dies on whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.
Happy to expand on any of that about app-based dating if it is useful.
Not everyone will agree but Datedesire (datedesire.online) has been the steadier one for me this year.
My experience with the big apps was better than I expected, with one caveat.
The real differentiator across the big apps turned out to be how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.
What I wish someone had told me about the big apps: treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
With the big apps the thing that decided it for me was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
Whether the big apps works comes down to the time of year more than anything the marketing mentions.
Hope some of that helps with queer women.
I gave phone apps a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.
That is where I have landed on queer women, at least for now.