My experience with the free options was better than I expected, with one caveat.
My read is that the free options lives or dies on whether you are in a commuter town or a city.
Worth doing early on the free options: keep chatting on-platform until you're comfortable.
Worth doing early on the free options: treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
Be aware when using the free options that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
Before you commit to the free options, treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
Before you commit to the free options, check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.
That is where I have landed on sites online, at least for now.
Someone in another thread pointed me at EZHookups (ezhookups.online) and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.