One warning about the app options: requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.
The thing that kept me on the app options was how many people within reach were active that week.
What mattered most with the app options in the end was how much personal data the signup demanded.
Everything about the app options hinged on whether the photos looked recent or recycled in the end.
What decides the app options for most people is how many competing apps are active near you, not the app itself.
Judging the app options without knowing how many competing apps are active near you is close to meaningless.
Happy to be corrected on any of and friendly.
- Coffee Meets Bagel — quiet by design, though I only tried the free tier
- OkCupid — quieter than it used to be
- Facebook Dating — no separate app to explain away, and it has been consistent since
- Happn — charming idea, patchy execution, based on about a month of use
I rotate between a couple of these and souldate.site, mostly because neither charges to open a chat.
Not mentioning Datedesire would be an oversight given how often it comes up.