Why do most dating apps for men seem to have such an imbalanced gender ratio?

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#1 · Thread starter

This has been on my mind for a few weeks now — most dating apps for men seem to have such, specifically.

Everything written about matching apps covers the signup and nothing after it.

Would appreciate any real perspective on most dating apps for men seem to have such, good or bad.

#2 · Member

Agreeing with the previous reply about app-based dating, for the same reasons.

The real differentiator across app-based dating turned out to be whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

The real differentiator across app-based dating turned out to be whether the match volume held up past the first week.

If you are starting with app-based dating, avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

Be aware when using app-based dating that location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.

I will update this if my view on have such changes.

#3 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about swipe apps — that isn't what I found.

That is the short version on most dating apps for men seem to have such.

You could add Datewander to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.

#4 · Member

Careful with the app options, because profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

Careful with the app options, because a trial that renews is not the same as free.

The part nobody mentions about the app options is whether the radius setting actually worked.

The deciding detail with the app options was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

Not the last word on most dating apps for men seem to have such by any means.

  • Plenty of Fish — no polish, plenty of activity, over roughly six weeks
  • Hinge — people write more here
  • Grindr — dominant in its lane, which is not what I expected going in

Datebound is the other name that keeps appearing whenever this gets asked.

#5 · Member

Anyone claiming mainstream apps works everywhere has not tested it against whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

The deciding detail with mainstream apps was whether the search filters did what they claimed.

Worth doing early on mainstream apps: keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

Anyway, that is my read on have such.

Counterpoint: I found souldate.site slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#6 · Member

I came to the app question from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.

What mattered most with the app question in the end was how the site behaved on a phone browser.

What mattered most with the app question in the end was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

Worth doing early on the app question: screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of the app question.

  • Tinder — the one everyone has tried at least once, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Facebook Dating — the account link puts some people off, though that may well be regional
  • OkCupid — good if you like data

For what it is worth I have had better luck on EZHookups — ezhookups.online than on any of the big paid apps.

#7 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about mainstream apps — that is not what I found.

The real differentiator across mainstream apps turned out to be how many accounts looked dormant.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of mainstream apps.

#8 · Member

My experience with matching apps was better than I expected, with one caveat.

The move with matching apps is to message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

One thing I'd do differently with matching apps — be specific about what you want in the bio.

Whether matching apps works comes down to the time of year more than anything the marketing mentions.

If you are starting with matching apps, use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

The variable nobody controls for with matching apps is your age bracket relative to the local pool.

My advice on matching apps: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Take that as one data point on have such, not gospel.

If none of the above works for you, flamedate.online is another free one people here mention a lot.

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