What is the etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating only?

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#1 · Thread starter

Trying to get a straight answer on etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating without wading through sponsored content.

There is a gap between how no-strings platforms are advertised and how they seem to work.

What am I missing on etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating? Happy to be told I am approaching etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating entirely wrong.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on hookup services — that lines up with what I saw.

The deciding detail with hookup services was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.

One thing I would do differently with hookup services — test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

What I wish someone had told me about hookup services: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

The thing to watch on hookup services is that some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.

I will update this if my view on etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating changes.

  • Plenty of Fish — rough interface, real people
  • Zoosk — the verification system is decent, on a phone browser anyway
  • Badoo — good coverage, mixed quality
  • Tinder — still the default for volume, though that may well be regional
  • Grindr — efficient, not romantic, at least in my area

Counterpoint: I found Flamedate (flamedate.online) slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#3 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about casual sites — that is not what I found.

That is roughly where I sit on fwb dating today.

Not everyone will agree but Datenest (datenest.site) has been the steadier one for me this year.

There is a decent thread on Luvdate somewhere in the archive if you search.

#4 · Member

Be aware when using short-term dating services that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

Practical tip for short-term dating services: message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

Worth flagging with short-term dating services — some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.

The move with short-term dating services is to use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

With short-term dating services the thing that decided it for me was whether it worked without installing anything.

Anyway, that is my read on etiquette for using a platform designed for fwb dating.

#5 · Member

The variable nobody controls for with casual sites is how wide you set the radius.

My read is that casual sites lives or dies on whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

That is roughly where I sit on fwb dating today.

A friend of mine swears by EZHookups — ezhookups.online, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.

#6 · Member

I gave the casual side a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.

The move with the casual side is to check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

Before you commit to the casual side, check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

What changed my mind on the casual side was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

Interested to see what others say about fwb dating.

I rotate between a couple of these and Souldate (souldate.site), mostly because neither charges to open a chat.

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