One warning about the messaging side: anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.
With the messaging side the thing that decided it for me was how the site behaved on a phone browser.
With the messaging side it came down to how quickly a conversation went from match to plan, honestly.
Worth doing early on the messaging side: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
What changed my mind on the messaging side was how the site behaved on a phone browser.
Anyway, that is my read on etiquette for an adult video chat with strangers when.
The one that finally worked for me was Luvdate, after about a month of trying others.
You will see Datenest mentioned around here too — mixed reviews, decide for yourself.