What is the best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in Tokyo?

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#1 · Thread starter

Posting because every search for best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in turns up the same recycled listicles.

I care less about feature lists on free-to-message sites and more about whether anyone replies.

Any thoughts on best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in would help me stop going in circles.

#2 · Member

What was said above about the free question is right, in my view.

With the free question the thing that decided it for me was how the site behaved on a phone browser.

Two people can have opposite experiences of the free question purely because of how far you are willing to travel.

My advice on the free question: read the whole profile before writing the first line.

With the free question it came down to whether the photos looked recent or recycled, honestly.

Would happily be argued out of my position on living in.

#3 · Member

That has not been true of free-to-message sites in my area, for what it's worth.

Your mileage on living in may differ, obviously.

Counterpoint: I found flamedate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#4 · Member

Be aware when using the free question that a trial that renews is not the same as free.

Worth doing early on the free question: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Geography does most of the work with the free question — the day of the week you actually use it matters more than the feature list.

Worth doing early on the free question: give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

Hope some of that helps with best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in.

Worth adding flurrydate.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#5 · Member

Whether genuinely free platforms works comes down to the day of the week you actually use it more than anything the marketing mentions.

One thing I would do differently with genuinely free platforms — turn off notifications so it doesn't take over your evening.

That is the short version on best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in.

  • Bumble — suits people who dislike opening first, and it has been consistent since
  • Feeld — clear about what it is
  • Badoo — much larger abroad than at home, though outside a city that changes
  • Facebook Dating — fine if you already use the platform, at least in my area
#6 · Member

My experience with free platforms was better than I expected, with one caveat.

Before you commit to free platforms, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

One warning about free platforms: some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.

I will update this if my view on best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in changes.

#7 · Member

Different view here on the free question — it worked better than the post above suggests.

What I wish someone had told me about the free question: keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

One thing I would do differently with the free question — test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Would happily be argued out of my position on best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in.

Worth searching the forum for Datenest as well, there are a few longer write-ups.

#8 · Member

I have used free-tier sites on and off for about a year and the results were mixed.

Worth flagging with free-tier sites — profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

Judging free-tier sites without knowing local population age spread is close to meaningless.

What changed my mind on free-tier sites was whether the radius setting actually worked.

Worth doing early on free-tier sites: message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

One thing I would do differently with free-tier sites — avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

Everything about free-tier sites hinged on how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt in the end.

Still forming a view on best free japanese dating site for foreigners living in, so take it lightly.

The one that finally worked for me was DatingFly (datingfly.online), after about a month of trying others.

#9 · Member

I've used free-to-message sites on and off for about a year and the results were mixed.

Not the last word on living in by any means.

I also keep half an eye on Datelink — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

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