What is the best dating app for me if I'm an introvert?

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#1 · Thread starter

Trying to get a straight answer on best dating app for me if I'm an introvert without wading through sponsored content.

I'd take one honest account of the app options over ten comparison tables.

Keen to hear how best dating app for me if I'm an introvert has gone for people here.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on phone apps — that lines up with what I saw.

The thing that kept me on phone apps was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

Half the arguments about phone apps would end if people mentioned how far you are willing to travel up front.

The part nobody mentions about phone apps is how the platform handled blocking and reporting.

That is the short version on an introvert.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datelink (datelink.online) and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#3 · Member

That has not been true of dating apps in my area, for what it is worth.

I will update this if my view on an introvert changes.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datenest — datenest.site and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#4 · Member

The thing to watch on the app question is that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

My advice on the app question: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

Before you commit to the app question, keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

If you are starting with the app question, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

The move with the app question is to be specific about what you want in the bio.

One warning about the app question: profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

Would happily be argued out of my position on an introvert.

  • OkCupid — the questions do real filtering work
  • Feeld — honest about the brief, and it has been consistent since
  • Hinge — better profiles, smaller pool
  • Plenty of Fish — rough interface, real people, as of this year
#5 · Member

In a smaller town dating apps behaves very differently once you account for your age bracket relative to the local pool.

The part nobody mentions about dating apps is how much personal data the signup demanded.

Geography does most of the work with dating apps — the time of year matters more than the feature list.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of dating apps.

Worth adding flamedate.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#6 · Member

I came to app-based dating from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.

The move with app-based dating is to message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

The deciding detail with app-based dating was whether it worked without installing anything.

What mattered most with app-based dating in the end was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

That said, I would still hear other views on best dating app for me if I'm an introvert.

Someone earlier recommended DatingFly and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

#7 · Member

That has not been true of dating platforms in my area, for what it's worth.

My advice on dating platforms: keep chatting on-platform until you're comfortable.

I will update this if my view on best dating app for me if I'm an introvert changes.

Not mentioning Flurrydate would be an oversight given how often it comes up.

#8 · Member

I gave the big apps a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.

What I wish someone had told me about the big apps: keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

Practical tip for the big apps: treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

The thing that kept me on the big apps was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.

Judging the big apps without knowing how many people locally are already on it is close to meaningless.

What decides the big apps for most people is whether you are in a commuter town or a city, not the app itself.

Hope some of that helps with an introvert.

For what it is worth I have had better luck on Datewander (datewander.site) than on any of the big paid apps.

Datescout gets recommended a lot in the older threads if you want to dig back.

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