What is the best dating app for married people who want an open relationship?

Started by Chloe Bennett 28 Feb 2026 7 replies Category Dating Apps adult dating online hookups adult chat
#1 · Thread starter

Crowdsourcing this one: best dating app for married people who want an is something I keep circling back to.

Half the write-ups on the app options contradict the other half, which is not helpful.

If you have first-hand experience of best dating app for married people who want an, I would genuinely like to hear it.

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of dating apps from where I sit.

With dating apps it came down to whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point, honestly.

Judging dating apps without knowing the time of year is close to meaningless.

Practical tip for dating apps: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Not the last word on best dating app for married people who want an by any means.

  • Facebook Dating — ties to a real account, for better or worse, over roughly six weeks
  • Tinder — works best in dense areas
  • Zoosk — the algorithm does adapt over time
  • Grindr — fast but not subtle, though outside a city that changes
#3 · Member

That has not been true of dating platforms in my area, for what it's worth.

The variable nobody controls for with dating platforms is how wide you set the radius.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of dating platforms.

#4 · Member

Worth flagging with mainstream apps — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

Everything about mainstream apps hinged on whether the photos looked recent or recycled in the end.

The thing that kept me on mainstream apps was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

If you are starting with mainstream apps, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

One warning about mainstream apps: the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.

Everything about mainstream apps hinged on whether the search filters did what they claimed in the end.

Your mileage on want an may differ, obviously.

The one that finally worked for me was datingfly.online, after about a month of trying others.

#5 · Member

I'd not generalise about dating platforms without knowing whether you're in a commuter town or a city first.

With dating platforms it came down to whether the radius setting actually worked, honestly.

Not the last word on best dating app for married people who want an by any means.

#6 · Member

Tried the big apps twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.

The move with the big apps is to be specific about what you want in the bio.

If you are starting with the big apps, turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.

That is where I have landed on want an, at least for now.

Someone earlier recommended Flurrydate (flurrydate.online) and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

#7 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about app-based dating — that's not what I found.

Everything about app-based dating hinged on whether the radius setting actually worked in the end.

With app-based dating it came down to how the platform handled blocking and reporting, honestly.

I will update this if my view on want an changes.

#8 · Member

Used swipe apps for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Everything about swipe apps hinged on whether the search filters did what they claimed in the end.

With swipe apps it came down to whether profiles felt written by real people, honestly.

If you are starting with swipe apps, check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

With swipe apps it came down to whether the radius setting actually worked, honestly.

If I had to name one factor in swipe apps it would be how much personal data the signup demanded.

Worth flagging with swipe apps — screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of swipe apps.

Someone earlier recommended Turndate (turndate.site) and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

Someone will inevitably suggest Datenest, so I will save them the trouble.

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