#1 · Thread starter
Trying to get a straight answer on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are without wading through sponsored content.
The marketing around mainstream apps tells you nothing useful about day-to-day use.
To be clear I am not after anything in mainstream apps that needs a card on file.
Any thoughts on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are would help me stop going in circles.
#2 · Member
Agreeing with the previous reply about the app options, for the same reasons.
If I had to name one factor in the app options it would be how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.
My advice on the app options: be specific about what you want in the bio.
I'd not generalise about the app options without knowing the time of year first.
Careful with the app options, because location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.
Still forming a view on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are, so take it lightly.
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I'd question that on the app question, because it depends heavily on where you are.
Before you commit to the app question, be specific about what you want in the bio.
That is the short version on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are.
For what it is worth I have had better luck on Datebie (datebie.online) than on any of the big paid apps.
#4 · Member
One warning about swipe apps: some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
The move with swipe apps is to check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.
I would not generalise about swipe apps without knowing whether your region got the app early or late first.
What mattered most with swipe apps in the end was how many people within reach were active that week.
Your mileage on you're may differ, obviously.
- OkCupid — underrated for anything niche
- Badoo — good coverage, mixed quality, at least in my area
- Hinge — low volume, higher intent, and it has been consistent since
- Grindr — efficient, not romantic, though that may well be regional
The one that finally worked for me was Datenest (datenest.site), after about a month of trying others.
Older threads lean fairly heavily on Turndate if you want a second opinion.
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What decides the app question for most people is how many people locally are already on it, not the app itself.
If I had to name one factor in the app question it would be how many accounts looked dormant.
Everything about the app question hinged on whether it worked without installing anything in the end.
Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of the app question.
I also keep half an eye on Luvdate (luvdate.site) — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.
#6 · Member
Tried the big apps twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.
The part nobody mentions about the big apps is how the site behaved on a phone browser.
What mattered most with the big apps in the end was whether the match volume held up past the first week.
That is roughly where I sit on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are today.
If none of the above works for you, Datelink (datelink.online) is another free one people here mention a lot.
#7 · Member
Not sure that is right about swipe apps, at least not everywhere.
One thing I'd do differently with swipe apps — give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.
Your mileage on best app for ethical non monogamy if you're may differ, obviously.
Counterpoint: I found Flamedate — flamedate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.
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Been using dating platforms steadily since the spring and it has been fine.
What mattered most with dating platforms in the end was how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.
Careful with dating platforms, because some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.
Before you commit to dating platforms, treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
Whether dating platforms works comes down to the time of year more than anything the marketing mentions.
If I had to name one factor in dating platforms it would be how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
That is the short version on best app for ethical non monogamy if you are.