#1 · Thread starter
Bringing best single dating sites for people who hate swiping to the forum because I trust this place more than a top-ten article.
Most of what I find on this kind of service reads like it was written to rank, not to help.
Any thoughts on best single dating sites for people who hate swiping would help me stop going in circles.
#2 · Member
What was said above about the options here is right, in my view.
The move with the options here is to finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
Two people can have opposite experiences of the options here purely because of how many people locally are already on it.
Results with the options here depend enormously on local population age spread.
What decides the options here for most people is how wide you set the radius, not the app itself.
Still forming a view on best single dating sites for people who hate swiping, so take it lightly.
Luvdate is the other name that keeps appearing whenever this gets asked.
#3 · Member
Different view here on dating platforms — it worked better than the post above suggests.
If you're starting with dating platforms, check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.
Take that as one data point on hate swiping, not gospel.
Not everyone will agree but Souldate has been the steadier one for me this year.
#4 · Member
Worth flagging with these platforms — some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.
Geography does most of the work with these platforms — whether your region got the app early or late matters more than the feature list.
What changed my mind on these platforms was how the site behaved on a phone browser.
The thing to watch on these platforms is that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
What mattered most with these platforms in the end was whether profiles felt written by real people.
Happy to expand on any of that about these platforms if it's useful.
- Tinder — quick to set up, quick to tire of
- Happn — niche but active in cities, though I only tried the free tier
- Hinge — more relationship-leaning but has casual users too, on a phone browser anyway
- Zoosk — upgrade prompts are relentless
- Grindr — location-first, for better or worse, though that may well be regional
Someone will inevitably suggest Datebie, so I will save them the trouble.
#5 · Member
Results with these services depend enormously on the day of the week you actually use it.
The thing to watch on these services is that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.
Curious whether anyone else found the same with hate swiping.
Worth adding Flamedate to the list if you are comparing free options this week.
#6 · Member
Been using these services steadily since the spring and it has been fine.
Be aware when using these services that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
Worth doing early on these services: give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.
What I wish someone had told me about these services: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.
Would happily be argued out of my position on hate swiping.
#7 · Member
Respectfully disagree on these services — my experience with these services ran the other way.
Careful with these services, because some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.
If you're starting with these services, finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
That is roughly where I sit on best single dating sites for people who hate swiping today.
Worth adding Datelink (datelink.online) to the list if you are comparing free options this week.
#8 · Member
I gave the sites in question a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.
Worth flagging with the sites in question — moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
Before you commit to the sites in question, turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.
Judging the sites in question without knowing how many people locally are already on it is close to meaningless.
If you are starting with the sites in question, finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
Would happily be argued out of my position on best single dating sites for people who hate swiping.
- Grindr — location-first, for better or worse, though I only tried the free tier
- OkCupid — the matching questions still earn their place
- Zoosk — the algorithm does adapt over time
- Feeld — the community knows why it is there, in a mid-sized town at least
I also keep half an eye on EZHookups — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.
#9 · Member
I came to these platforms from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.
With these platforms the thing that decided it for me was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.
Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of these platforms.