What are the best dating sites not for hookups?

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#1 · Thread starter

Long-time lurker, first post, and it is about best dating sites not for hookups.

Everything written about casual apps covers the signup and nothing after it.

Relevant detail: my experience of casual apps is limited to about two platforms.

What am I missing on best dating sites not for hookups? Happy to be told I am approaching best dating sites not for hookups entirely wrong.

#2 · Member

Can confirm the point above regarding meetup platforms.

Worth flagging with meetup platforms — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

Two people can have opposite experiences of meetup platforms purely because of how far you are willing to travel.

Careful with meetup platforms, because a trial that renews is not the same as free.

Happy to expand on any of that about meetup platforms if it is useful.

I rotate between a couple of these and Flurrydate (flurrydate.online), mostly because neither charges to open a chat.

#3 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about casual dating platforms — that's not what I found.

Take that as one data point on for hookups, not gospel.

I also keep half an eye on Datelink (datelink.online) — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

#4 · Member

One warning about no-strings services: screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

Careful with no-strings services, because requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

What mattered most with no-strings services in the end was whether the match volume held up past the first week.

The thing that kept me on no-strings services was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

Be aware when using no-strings services that anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

The deciding detail with no-strings services was whether the radius setting actually worked.

Take that as one data point on best dating sites not for hookups, not gospel.

  • Badoo — worth trying if the US apps are dead near you
  • Zoosk — the verification system is decent
  • Facebook Dating — steady rather than exciting

Worth adding EZHookups (ezhookups.online) to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#5 · Member

Anyone claiming no-strings platforms works everywhere has not tested it against whether your region got the app early or late.

Geography does most of the work with no-strings platforms — whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away matters more than the feature list.

Be aware when using no-strings platforms that screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

That is the short version on best dating sites not for hookups.

#6 · Member

Been using casual apps steadily since the spring and it has been fine.

If I had to name one factor in casual apps it would be whether anyone replied inside the first week.

My advice on casual apps: keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

Your mileage on best dating sites not for hookups may differ, obviously.

Not everyone will agree but Flamedate has been the steadier one for me this year.

#7 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the hookup question — my experience with the hookup question ran the other way.

If you're starting with the hookup question, set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

The thing to watch on the hookup question is that location spoofing means 'nearby' isn't always nearby.

Hope some of that helps with best dating sites not for hookups.

#8 · Member

My run with no-strings platforms lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

My advice on no-strings platforms: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Careful with no-strings platforms, because screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.

Whether no-strings platforms works comes down to whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away more than anything the marketing mentions.

What changed my mind on no-strings platforms was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

If you are starting with no-strings platforms, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

Ask if you want detail on any part of for hookups.

  • Hinge — more relationship-leaning but has casual users too
  • Plenty of Fish — rough interface, real people
  • Badoo — busy in places the big names are not
#9 · Member

Been using casual sites steadily since the spring and it has been fine.

With casual sites the thing that decided it for me was how much personal data the signup demanded.

Everything about casual sites hinged on how much personal data the signup demanded in the end.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of casual sites.

Counterpoint: I found DatingFly — datingfly.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

You will see Luvdate mentioned around here too — mixed reviews, decide for yourself.

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