What are the best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s?

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#1 · Thread starter

Trying to get a straight answer on best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s without wading through sponsored content.

I care less about feature lists on community-specific sites and more about whether anyone replies.

What am I missing on best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s? Happy to be told I am approaching best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s entirely wrong.

#2 · Member

This matches my experience of the niche question almost exactly.

What mattered most with the niche question in the end was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

Worth flagging with the niche question — requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

One thing I would do differently with the niche question — keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

Everything about the niche question hinged on whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point in the end.

Would happily be argued out of my position on their 40s.

Someone earlier recommended Souldate and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

#3 · Member

I had the opposite result with specialised services, so I would take that with some salt.

If you are starting with specialised services, assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

Still forming a view on their 40s, so take it lightly.

For what it is worth I have had better luck on Flamedate than on any of the big paid apps.

#4 · Member

Be aware when using niche platforms that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

The thing that kept me on niche platforms was how the moderation handled obvious spam.

What mattered most with niche platforms in the end was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.

Worth flagging with niche platforms — requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

Not the last word on best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s by any means.

The one that finally worked for me was Datebie, after about a month of trying others.

A few people swear by Datedesire, and a few others really do not.

#5 · Member

I'd not generalise about niche platforms without knowing how wide you set the radius first.

Results with niche platforms depend enormously on how dense your area is.

What I wish someone had told me about niche platforms: check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

Not the last word on best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s by any means.

I rotate between a couple of these and Datenest (datenest.site), mostly because neither charges to open a chat.

Older threads lean fairly heavily on Flurrydate if you want a second opinion.

#6 · Member

Used the niche options for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Careful with the niche options, because anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

Before you commit to the niche options, keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

That said, I would still hear other views on best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s.

Not everyone will agree but EZHookups has been the steadier one for me this year.

#7 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the niche options — my experience with the niche options ran the other way.

My advice on the niche options: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with best dating sites for mature singles in their 40s.

#8 · Member

Used targeted platforms for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Two people can have opposite experiences of targeted platforms purely because of the time of year.

I'd not generalise about targeted platforms without knowing how wide you set the radius first.

What mattered most with targeted platforms in the end was whether anyone replied inside the first week.

With targeted platforms it came down to how quickly a conversation went from match to plan, honestly.

That is roughly where I sit on their 40s today.

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