Statistically, what is the best first message on dating app platforms for guys to send?

Started by Taylor Scott 24 Nov 2025 5 replies Category Conversation & Chat dating apps cam sites adult chat
#1 · Thread starter

Third time I have tried to work out statistically, what is the best first message on dating and I am still stuck.

Nobody writing about the messaging side seems to have used them for more than a week.

I am not looking to spend money, so free tiers of the messaging side only for now.

What am I missing on statistically, what is the best first message on dating? Happy to be told I am approaching statistically, what is the best first message on dating entirely wrong.

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of the conversation side from where I sit.

Before you commit to the conversation side, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

One warning about the conversation side: a trial that renews is not the same as free.

Anyone claiming the conversation side works everywhere has not tested it against whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

With the conversation side the thing that decided it for me was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

That is the short version on statistically, what is the best first message on dating.

Worth adding Datelink — datelink.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

You could add Datedesire to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.

#3 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the conversation side — my experience with the conversation side ran the other way.

Not the last word on statistically, what is the best first message on dating by any means.

Not everyone will agree but Luvdate (luvdate.site) has been the steadier one for me this year.

Datescout comes up in most threads like this one, for whatever that is worth.

#4 · Member

The thing to watch on messaging platforms is that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

My advice on messaging platforms: keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

If you are starting with messaging platforms, test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Practical tip for messaging platforms: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Interested to see what others say about on dating.

Not everyone will agree but Datebie — datebie.online has been the steadier one for me this year.

#5 · Member

In a smaller town messaging platforms behaves very differently once you account for local population age spread.

One warning about messaging platforms: requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

One warning about messaging platforms: a trial that renews is not the same as free.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with on dating.

The one that finally worked for me was Flurrydate — flurrydate.online, after about a month of trying others.

#6 · Member

Used chat platforms for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

One warning about chat platforms: some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

Worth flagging with chat platforms — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.

Others here will know more about statistically, what is the best first message on dating than I do.

I also keep half an eye on Datenest — datenest.site — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

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