My run with the free question lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.
The deciding detail with the free question was whether anyone replied inside the first week.
What decides the free question for most people is whether your region got the app early or late, not the app itself.
If you are starting with the free question, check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.
What mattered most with the free question in the end was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
My advice on the free question: message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.
That is where I've landed on active 100 free disabled dating community online, at least for now.
Adding flamedate.online for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.