Is pof free enough to actually go on dates, or do you have to upgrade?

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#1 · Thread starter

Genuine question about pof free enough to actually go on dates, or — I would rather hear from people than from a review site.

I care less about feature lists on the big apps and more about whether anyone replies.

I am in my thirties, if that changes what people would recommend for pof free enough to actually go on dates, or.

If you have first-hand experience of pof free enough to actually go on dates, or, I would genuinely like to hear it.

#2 · Member

What was said above about the app question is right, in my view.

If you're starting with the app question, test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Practical tip for the app question: keep the first message to two lines with a question in it.

One warning about the app question: a trial that renews is not the same as free.

Everything about the app question hinged on whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point in the end.

Would happily be argued out of my position on pof free enough to actually go on dates, or.

For what it is worth I have had better luck on EZHookups (ezhookups.online) than on any of the big paid apps.

#3 · Member

I'd question that on matching apps, because it depends heavily on where you are.

The deciding detail with matching apps was how much personal data the signup demanded.

Anyway, that is my read on dates, or.

Counterpoint: I found flurrydate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#4 · Member

Worth flagging with app-based dating — a trial that renews is not the same as free.

The thing that kept me on app-based dating was whether it worked without installing anything.

In a smaller town app-based dating behaves very differently once you account for local population age spread.

The part nobody mentions about app-based dating is whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

Be aware when using app-based dating that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

The part nobody mentions about app-based dating is whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

Anyway, that is my read on pof free enough to actually go on dates, or.

Someone earlier recommended Flamedate (flamedate.online) and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

#5 · Member

Judging matching apps without knowing whether you are in a commuter town or a city is close to meaningless.

Practical tip for matching apps: keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

What I wish someone had told me about matching apps: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

Interested to see what others say about dates, or.

#6 · Member

I have used dating apps on and off for about a year and the results were mixed.

Be aware when using dating apps that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

The part nobody mentions about dating apps is whether the search filters did what they claimed.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of dating apps.

#7 · Member

I had the opposite result with mainstream apps, so I would take that with some salt.

One warning about mainstream apps: requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

Before you commit to mainstream apps, screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

Hope some of that helps with pof free enough to actually go on dates, or.

#8 · Member

Used the app options for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.

Practical tip for the app options: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.

I would not generalise about the app options without knowing whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away first.

The thing that kept me on the app options was how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.

If you are starting with the app options, read the whole profile before writing the first line.

The real differentiator across the app options turned out to be whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

With the app options it came down to whether profiles felt written by real people, honestly.

Would happily be argued out of my position on dates, or.

For what it is worth I have had better luck on Datenest (datenest.site) than on any of the big paid apps.

#9 · Member

My run with the app options lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

What I wish someone had told me about the app options: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

That covers what I know about the app options, at least.

#10 · Member

That is a fair summary of dating apps from where I sit.

The deciding detail with dating apps was how many accounts looked dormant.

The move with dating apps is to be specific about what you want in the bio.

What changed my mind on dating apps was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

Would happily be argued out of my position on dates, or.

Someone earlier recommended datingfly.online and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

Datebie gets recommended a lot in the older threads if you want to dig back.

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