#1 · Thread starter
I have spent longer than I'd like reading about safe to use a gay online dating site without and come away more confused.
Nobody writing about the scam question seems to have used them for more than a week.
Tell me about safe to use a gay online dating site without from experience rather than from a review page.
#2 · Member
This matches my experience of the trust question almost exactly.
My advice on the trust question: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.
One thing I'd do differently with the trust question — use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
Before you commit to the trust question, read the whole profile before writing the first line.
Worth doing early on the trust question: assume the first three conversations will go nowhere.
I will update this if my view on site without changes.
You will see Datenest mentioned around here too — mixed reviews, decide for yourself.
#3 · Member
Going to push back on the last post about the legitimacy question — that is not what I found.
Happy to expand on any of that about the legitimacy question if it is useful.
#4 · Member
Be aware when using the safety side that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.
What changed my mind on the safety side was whether it worked without installing anything.
What mattered most with the safety side in the end was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.
The move with the safety side is to read the whole profile before writing the first line.
With the safety side it came down to how many accounts looked dormant, honestly.
The thing that kept me on the safety side was how the platform handled blocking and reporting.
Would happily be argued out of my position on site without.
I also keep half an eye on Datedesire — datedesire.online — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.
#5 · Member
Half the arguments about due diligence here would end if people mentioned how wide you set the radius up front.
Careful with due diligence here, because screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.
The deciding detail with due diligence here was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.
The move with due diligence here is to be specific about what you want in the bio.
Still forming a view on safe to use a gay online dating site without, so take it lightly.
#6 · Member
Used the legitimacy question for about six weeks, which is long enough to have an opinion.
Worth flagging with the legitimacy question — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.
I would not generalise about the legitimacy question without knowing how wide you set the radius first.
Before you commit to the legitimacy question, turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.
Hope some of that helps with site without.
#7 · Member
That has not been true of screening a service in my area, for what it is worth.
I'd not generalise about screening a service without knowing how wide you set the radius first.
That said, I would still hear other views on safe to use a gay online dating site without.
#8 · Member
My experience with platform trustworthiness was better than I expected, with one caveat.
Be aware when using platform trustworthiness that the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.
The part nobody mentions about platform trustworthiness is whether it worked without installing anything.
Before you commit to platform trustworthiness, avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.
The real differentiator across platform trustworthiness turned out to be how many accounts looked dormant.
Not the last word on safe to use a gay online dating site without by any means.
Worth adding datingfly.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.
#9 · Member
Spent most of last winter on screening a service, so here is what I actually saw.
The move with screening a service is to turn off notifications so it doesn't take over your evening.
My advice on screening a service: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.
Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of screening a service.
You will see Flurrydate mentioned around here too — mixed reviews, decide for yourself.
#10 · Member
Seconding the post above on the safety side — that lines up with what I saw.
Half the arguments about the safety side would end if people mentioned the time of year up front.
The move with the safety side is to treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
What mattered most with the safety side in the end was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.
The thing to watch on the safety side is that a trial that renews is not the same as free.
Curious whether anyone else found the same with safe to use a gay online dating site without.
#11 · Member
Different view here on platform safety — it worked better than the post above suggests.
One thing I would do differently with platform safety — use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
Practical tip for platform safety: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
That is roughly where I sit on safe to use a gay online dating site without today.
#12 · Member
Careful with screening a service, because some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
Be aware when using screening a service that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
Careful with screening a service, because some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
What decides screening a service for most people is how many competing apps are active near you, not the app itself.
Half the arguments about screening a service would end if people mentioned the time of year up front.
Anyway, that is my read on site without.
- Grindr — location-first, for better or worse
- Bumble — less noise than the obvious alternative, in a mid-sized town at least
- Plenty of Fish — the free messaging is the draw, though I only tried the free tier
Worth adding datebie.online to the list if you are comparing free options this week.