#1 · Thread starter
This has been on my mind for a few weeks now — possible to find a list of all the dating, specifically.
Most of what I find on the app question reads like it was written to rank, not to help.
Where should someone start with possible to find a list of all the dating? Open to anything.
#2 · Member
This matches my experience of mainstream apps almost exactly.
In a smaller town mainstream apps behaves very differently once you account for how dense your area is.
The move with mainstream apps is to set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.
The thing to watch on mainstream apps is that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
What decides mainstream apps for most people is local population age spread, not the app itself.
That covers what I know about mainstream apps, at least.
#3 · Member
Not sure that is right about the big apps, at least not everywhere.
Take that as one data point on the dating, not gospel.
You could add DatingFly to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.
#4 · Member
Careful with the big apps, because anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.
I would not generalise about the big apps without knowing how many people locally are already on it first.
The move with the big apps is to finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
The real differentiator across the big apps turned out to be how many accounts looked dormant.
What decides the big apps for most people is your age bracket relative to the local pool, not the app itself.
Interested to see what others say about possible to find a list of all the dating.
The one that finally worked for me was Flamedate (flamedate.online), after about a month of trying others.
#5 · Member
I would not generalise about the big apps without knowing how far you are willing to travel first.
Be aware when using the big apps that a trial that renews is not the same as free.
Anyway, that is my read on the dating.
#6 · Member
I came to mainstream apps from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.
My advice on mainstream apps: keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.
If I had to name one factor in mainstream apps it would be how many people within reach were active that week.
Hope some of that helps with possible to find a list of all the dating.
Counterpoint: I found EZHookups slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.
#7 · Member
That has not been true of mainstream apps in my area, for what it's worth.
What changed my mind on mainstream apps was how the platform handled blocking and reporting.
The move with mainstream apps is to test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.
Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of mainstream apps.
Adding Flurrydate for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.
#8 · Member
My experience with the big apps was better than I expected, with one caveat.
What mattered most with the big apps in the end was how the platform handled blocking and reporting.
Careful with the big apps, because screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.
The real differentiator across the big apps turned out to be how the platform handled blocking and reporting.
What I wish someone had told me about the big apps: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
With the big apps it came down to whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point, honestly.
Take that as one data point on possible to find a list of all the dating, not gospel.
- Tinder — volume over precision, in a mid-sized town at least
- Badoo — strong outside the US
- Facebook Dating — ties to a real account, for better or worse
- Zoosk — the verification system is decent
- Happn — charming idea, patchy execution, which genuinely surprised me