I gave these platforms a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.
Worth flagging with these platforms — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.
If I had to name one factor in these platforms it would be how the site behaved on a phone browser.
Worth flagging with these platforms — some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
What I wish someone had told me about these platforms: give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.
One warning about these platforms: location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.
Two people can have opposite experiences of these platforms purely because of your age bracket relative to the local pool.
Hope some of that helps with friend finder dating worth the monthly fee if you.
The one that finally worked for me was flurrydate.online, after about a month of trying others.