If you had to pick the single best internet dating site for finding a spouse, what is it?

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#1 · Thread starter

Been going back and forth on if you had to pick the single best internet for a while and I still can't land on an answer.

Everything written about services like this covers the signup and nothing after it.

If you have first-hand experience of if you had to pick the single best internet, I would genuinely like to hear it.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on the platforms involved — that lines up with what I saw.

Everything about the platforms involved hinged on whether profiles felt written by real people in the end.

If I had to name one factor in the platforms involved it would be how much personal data the signup demanded.

The deciding detail with the platforms involved was whether it worked without installing anything.

I will update this if my view on best internet changes.

#3 · Member

I had the opposite result with the sites in question, so I'd take that with some salt.

Others here will know more about if you had to pick the single best internet than I do.

#4 · Member

One warning about the options here: requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

With the options here it came down to how much personal data the signup demanded, honestly.

The real differentiator across the options here turned out to be whether the match volume held up past the first week.

Before you commit to the options here, finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

Worth doing early on the options here: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

Not the last word on if you had to pick the single best internet by any means.

Someone in another thread pointed me at datingfly.online and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#5 · Member

Two people can have opposite experiences of services like this purely because of whether your region got the app early or late.

The thing to watch on services like this is that location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.

The part nobody mentions about services like this is whether the radius setting actually worked.

The move with services like this is to treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

Anyway, that is my read on best internet.

Counterpoint: I found flurrydate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#6 · Member

I still use the options here occasionally, mostly out of habit at this point.

The deciding detail with the options here was whether it worked without installing anything.

The move with the options here is to screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

If you are starting with the options here, message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

Happy to expand on any of that about the options here if it's useful.

#7 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the options here — my experience with the options here ran the other way.

What I wish someone had told me about the options here: read the whole profile before writing the first line.

If I had to name one factor in the options here it would be whether the match volume held up past the first week.

Take that as one data point on if you had to pick the single best internet, not gospel.

If none of the above works for you, Turndate (turndate.site) is another free one people here mention a lot.

#8 · Member

My run with services like this lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

With services like this it came down to whether the free tier let you see who liked you, honestly.

With services like this the thing that decided it for me was how much personal data the signup demanded.

What mattered most with services like this in the end was whether the search filters did what they claimed.

Practical tip for services like this: turn off notifications so it doesn't take over your evening.

Happy to expand on any of that about services like this if it is useful.

Datescout comes up in most threads like this one, for whatever that is worth.

#9 · Member

I came to the sites in question from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.

The move with the sites in question is to test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

If you are starting with the sites in question, treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

That said, I would still hear other views on best internet.

Counterpoint: I found Flamedate — flamedate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#10 · Member

This matches my experience of services like this almost exactly.

Practical tip for services like this: treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

Be aware when using services like this that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

I'd not generalise about services like this without knowing how wide you set the radius first.

Before you commit to services like this, finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

That said, I'd still hear other views on best internet.

  • Grindr — efficient, not romantic
  • Facebook Dating — fine if you already use the platform, on a phone browser anyway
  • Bumble — the timer forces things along
#11 · Member

Respectfully disagree on these services — my experience with these services ran the other way.

Everything about these services hinged on how quickly a conversation went from match to plan in the end.

The move with these services is to keep chatting on-platform until you are comfortable.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with best internet.

#12 · Member

Be aware when using the options on the table that location spoofing means 'nearby' isn't always nearby.

The variable nobody controls for with the options on the table is how far you are willing to travel.

One thing I would do differently with the options on the table — check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

If you are starting with the options on the table, avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

That is where I've landed on best internet, at least for now.

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