For men seeking older women, what opening line actually works?

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#1 · Thread starter

Posting because every search for for men seeking older women, what opening line actually turns up the same recycled listicles.

There is a gap between how the options on the table are advertised and how they seem to work.

What am I missing on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually? Happy to be told I am approaching for men seeking older women, what opening line actually entirely wrong.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on these platforms — that lines up with what I saw.

One warning about these platforms: moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

What I wish someone had told me about these platforms: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

Your mileage on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually may differ, obviously.

#3 · Member

That has not been true of the options here in my area, for what it's worth.

I will update this if my view on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually changes.

Worth adding EZHookups to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

You could add Souldate to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.

#4 · Member

Worth flagging with these services — some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.

The deciding detail with these services was how many accounts looked dormant.

With these services the thing that decided it for me was whether it worked without installing anything.

One warning about these services: location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.

If you are starting with these services, test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

That is where I have landed on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually, at least for now.

  • Badoo — strong outside the US, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Tinder — widest reach if you are somewhere busy
  • Happn — novel but thin in most places, on a phone browser anyway
  • Facebook Dating — steady rather than exciting
  • Feeld — smaller but very self-selecting, though I only tried the free tier

There is a decent thread on Datewander somewhere in the archive if you search.

#5 · Member

In a smaller town the sites in question behaves very differently once you account for how many competing apps are active near you.

What changed my mind on the sites in question was whether profiles felt written by real people.

That said, I'd still hear other views on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually.

Counterpoint: I found flurrydate.online slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#6 · Member

My run with this kind of service lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

The thing that kept me on this kind of service was whether the photos looked recent or recycled.

With this kind of service it came down to how easy it was to delete the account afterwards, honestly.

Hope some of that helps with for men seeking older women, what opening line actually.

I also keep half an eye on DatingFly (datingfly.online) — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

#7 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the options here — my experience with the options here ran the other way.

The move with the options here is to check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

What mattered most with the options here in the end was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

Worth hearing from someone with longer experience of the options here.

Not everyone will agree but Flamedate (flamedate.online) has been the steadier one for me this year.

#8 · Member

I came to dating platforms from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.

Worth doing early on dating platforms: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

Two people can have opposite experiences of dating platforms purely because of how dense your area is.

I would not generalise about dating platforms without knowing how wide you set the radius first.

One warning about dating platforms: a trial that renews isn't the same as free.

The thing that kept me on dating platforms was how much personal data the signup demanded.

Others here will know more about for men seeking older women, what opening line actually than I do.

If none of the above works for you, Datenest — datenest.site is another free one people here mention a lot.

#9 · Member

Tried these services twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.

Take that as one data point on for men seeking older women, what opening line actually, not gospel.

#10 · Member

Seconding the post above on the options here — that lines up with what I saw.

In a smaller town the options here behaves very differently once you account for local population age spread.

Two people can have opposite experiences of the options here purely because of whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

That covers what I know about the options here, at least.

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