I gave the platforms involved a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.
Careful with the platforms involved, because moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
What I wish someone had told me about the platforms involved: turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.
One thing I would do differently with the platforms involved — screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.
Worth flagging with the platforms involved — some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
Worth flagging with the platforms involved — screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.
Half the arguments about the platforms involved would end if people mentioned the time of year up front.
Happy to expand on any of that about the platforms involved if it's useful.
- Facebook Dating — zero extra download needed, as of this year
- Feeld — honest about the brief, as of this year
- Bumble — less noise than the obvious alternative, at least in my area
- Tinder — strong in cities, thin outside them, though outside a city that changes
- Grindr — little competition in its category
Not everyone will agree but Souldate (souldate.site) has been the steadier one for me this year.