Do any older dating sites free of charge actually have active users?

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#1 · Thread starter

Trying to get a straight answer on older dating sites free of charge actually have active without wading through sponsored content.

The reviews I have read on the free options are either three years old or obviously paid.

To be clear I am not after anything in the free options that needs a card on file.

If you have first-hand experience of older dating sites free of charge actually have active, I would genuinely like to hear it.

#2 · Member

What was said above about free-to-message sites is right, in my view.

The part nobody mentions about free-to-message sites is whether the match volume held up past the first week.

If I had to name one factor in free-to-message sites it would be whether the search filters did what they claimed.

The real differentiator across free-to-message sites turned out to be whether it worked without installing anything.

What I wish someone had told me about free-to-message sites: finish the profile completely before you browse anything.

Others here will know more about older dating sites free of charge actually have active than I do.

#3 · Member

That has not been true of free-to-message sites in my area, for what it is worth.

What I wish someone had told me about free-to-message sites: screenshot anything that looks like a scam and report it.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with older dating sites free of charge actually have active.

The one that finally worked for me was Flurrydate (flurrydate.online), after about a month of trying others.

#4 · Member

The thing to watch on the free question is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.

Results with the free question depend enormously on whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

Worth doing early on the free question: be specific about what you want in the bio.

The real differentiator across the free question turned out to be whether it worked without installing anything.

Happy to expand on any of that about the free question if it is useful.

  • Coffee Meets Bagel — limited daily matches, which some prefer, over roughly six weeks
  • Tinder — fine for reach, weak for depth
  • Badoo — busy in places the big names are not, at least in my area

Worth adding Souldate (souldate.site) to the list if you are comparing free options this week.

#5 · Member

Anyone claiming zero-cost options works everywhere has not tested it against how wide you set the radius.

The thing that kept me on zero-cost options was how many accounts looked dormant.

I'd not generalise about zero-cost options without knowing whether you're in a commuter town or a city first.

The thing that kept me on zero-cost options was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

Would happily be argued out of my position on have active.

#6 · Member

I gave free services a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.

Be aware when using free services that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

Two people can have opposite experiences of free services purely because of whether you are in a commuter town or a city.

What decides free services for most people is whether your region got the app early or late, not the app itself.

Happy to be corrected on any of older dating sites free of charge actually have active.

The one that finally worked for me was Datenest — datenest.site, after about a month of trying others.

You could add Datebound to the shortlist, purely on how often it gets named here.

#7 · Member

Respectfully disagree on the pricing question — my experience with the pricing question ran the other way.

If I had to name one factor in the pricing question it would be whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with have active.

Not everyone will agree but datebie.online has been the steadier one for me this year.

#8 · Member

Tried free services twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.

If you are starting with free services, be specific about what you want in the bio.

One thing I would do differently with free services — test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

One warning about free services: profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.

My advice on free services: avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

Worth doing early on free services: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

Happy to be corrected on any of have active.

I also keep half an eye on EZHookups — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

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