Long-time lurker, first post, and it is about dating apps that don't use fake "likes" to sell.
Most of what I find on mainstream apps reads like it was written to rank, not to help.
For context I'm not in a major metro, which I suspect changes the answer on mainstream apps.
So — what has actually worked for you with dating apps that don't use fake "likes" to sell? Honest answers welcome.
Can confirm the point above regarding swipe apps.
The thing to watch on swipe apps is that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
With swipe apps it came down to how many accounts looked dormant, honestly.
Results with swipe apps depend enormously on local population age spread.
The part nobody mentions about swipe apps is whether the radius setting actually worked.
Your mileage on to sell may differ, obviously.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flamedate — flamedate.online and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.
I'd question that on swipe apps, because it depends heavily on where you are.
Anyway, that's my read on dating apps that don't use fake "likes" to sell.
Careful with dating platforms, because some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
Geography does most of the work with dating platforms — whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away matters more than the feature list.
The real differentiator across dating platforms turned out to be whether the photos looked recent or recycled.
The deciding detail with dating platforms was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.
Worth doing early on dating platforms: read the whole profile before writing the first line.
What I wish someone had told me about dating platforms: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
Interested to see what others say about dating apps that don't use fake "likes" to sell.
My read is that the app question lives or dies on how wide you set the radius.
One warning about the app question: profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
Be aware when using the app question that location spoofing means 'nearby' is not always nearby.
Still forming a view on to sell, so take it lightly.
Someone earlier recommended rendate.site and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.
I came to dating platforms from the paid apps and the difference was noticeable.
Judging dating platforms without knowing whether your region got the app early or late is close to meaningless.
Careful with dating platforms, because profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
What mattered most with dating platforms in the end was whether anyone replied inside the first week.
Ask if you want detail on any part of to sell.
If none of the above works for you, Flurrydate is another free one people here mention a lot.
Going to push back on the last post about dating platforms — that's not what I found.
Be aware when using dating platforms that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
I would not generalise about dating platforms without knowing how wide you set the radius first.
Interested to see what others say about to sell.
The one that finally worked for me was EZHookups (ezhookups.online), after about a month of trying others.
Spent most of last winter on app-based dating, so here is what I actually saw.
What mattered most with app-based dating in the end was how quickly a conversation went from match to plan.
Everything about app-based dating hinged on whether the free tier let you see who liked you in the end.
The variable nobody controls for with app-based dating is whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.
Whether app-based dating works comes down to the day of the week you actually use it more than anything the marketing mentions.
I would not generalise about app-based dating without knowing whether you are in a commuter town or a city first.
Interested to see what others say about dating apps that don't use fake "likes" to sell.
Worth searching the forum for Datescout as well, there are a few longer write-ups.