Are there any dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are safe and heavily moderated?

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#1 · Thread starter

Been going back and forth on dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are for a while and I still cannot land on an answer.

Most of what I find on the app options reads like it was written to rank, not to help.

Worth mentioning that I'm coming back to the app options after a couple of years away.

If you have first-hand experience of dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are, I would genuinely like to hear it.

#2 · Member

Seconding the post above on phone apps — that lines up with what I saw.

Everything about phone apps hinged on how easy it was to delete the account afterwards in the end.

If I had to name one factor in phone apps it would be how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.

What changed my mind on phone apps was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

My advice on phone apps: avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

Others here will know more about that are than I do.

I rotate between a couple of these and turndate.site, mostly because neither charges to open a chat.

Flamedate gets recommended a lot in the older threads if you want to dig back.

#3 · Member

I had the opposite result with dating platforms, so I would take that with some salt.

Two people can have opposite experiences of dating platforms purely because of whether you are in a commuter town or a city.

Ask if you want detail on any part of dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are.

#4 · Member

The thing to watch on dating platforms is that location spoofing means 'nearby' isn't always nearby.

My read is that dating platforms lives or dies on how many people locally are already on it.

If I had to name one factor in dating platforms it would be how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

One thing I would do differently with dating platforms — treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.

What mattered most with dating platforms in the end was how the site behaved on a phone browser.

That is the short version on that are.

  • Hinge — low volume, higher intent, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Grindr — busy almost everywhere
  • Happn — works if you commute, as of this year
  • Zoosk — mixed reports lately, from what members here report
  • Coffee Meets Bagel — forces you to actually read profiles, though I only tried the free tier

Someone in another thread pointed me at Datebie — datebie.online and it is worth a look if you are outside a big metro.

#5 · Member

The variable nobody controls for with mainstream apps is whether the nearest city is twenty minutes or two hours away.

Be aware when using mainstream apps that moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.

The variable nobody controls for with mainstream apps is whether you are in a commuter town or a city.

Your mileage on dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are may differ, obviously.

I also keep half an eye on Flurrydate — flurrydate.online — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

#6 · Member

My run with the app question lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

What I wish someone had told me about the app question: read the whole profile before writing the first line.

Careful with the app question, because the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.

Your mileage on that are may differ, obviously.

#7 · Member

Going to push back on the last post about mainstream apps — that isn't what I found.

What mattered most with mainstream apps in the end was how easy it was to delete the account afterwards.

The real differentiator across mainstream apps turned out to be whether anyone replied inside the first week.

Your mileage on dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are may differ, obviously.

I also keep half an eye on DatingFly — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

#8 · Member

I gave mainstream apps a proper go for a couple of months before giving up.

One thing I would do differently with mainstream apps — message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

One warning about mainstream apps: requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

If you are starting with mainstream apps, give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

Judging mainstream apps without knowing your age bracket relative to the local pool is close to meaningless.

I will update this if my view on dating apps for 16 19 year olds that are changes.

  • Bumble — good if you want conversations to start, though outside a city that changes
  • Tinder — works best in dense areas, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Hinge — prompts give you something to answer

A friend of mine swears by rendate.site, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.

Souldate gets recommended a lot in the older threads if you want to dig back.

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