Agreeing with the previous reply about messaging platforms, for the same reasons.
My read is that messaging platforms lives or dies on the day of the week you actually use it.
If you are starting with messaging platforms, finish the profile completely before you browse anything.
If I had to name one factor in messaging platforms it would be whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.
The move with messaging platforms is to set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.
I will update this if my view on active dirty gay chat rooms on Discord changes.
- Zoosk — the verification system is decent
- Feeld — honest about the brief
- Plenty of Fish — the free messaging is the draw, at least in my area
- Bumble — the timer forces things along, from what members here report
- Facebook Dating — the account link puts some people off, though I only tried the free tier
I rotate between a couple of these and Datebie (datebie.online), mostly because neither charges to open a chat.
Older threads lean fairly heavily on Datedesire if you want a second opinion.