#1 · Thread starter
Genuine question about dtf apps actually safe to use, or are they — I would rather hear from people than from a review site.
Half the write-ups on dating platforms contradict the other half, which isn't helpful.
Anyone who has dealt with dtf apps actually safe to use, or are they recently, what would you do differently?
#2 · Member
Can confirm the point above regarding the big apps.
My read is that the big apps lives or dies on your age bracket relative to the local pool.
The part nobody mentions about the big apps is whether profiles felt written by real people.
If you're starting with the big apps, use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
The part nobody mentions about the big apps is how the moderation handled obvious spam.
Your mileage on are they may differ, obviously.
#3 · Member
Different view here on mainstream apps — it worked better than the post above suggests.
Careful with mainstream apps, because some sites make deleting an account deliberately awkward.
Interested to see what others say about are they.
#4 · Member
Careful with mainstream apps, because profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
Results with mainstream apps depend enormously on whether you are in a commuter town or a city.
The real differentiator across mainstream apps turned out to be whether profiles felt written by real people.
One warning about mainstream apps: moving to an external messaging app early is a common scam setup.
Worth flagging with mainstream apps — screenshots of a conversation travel further than you think.
I'd not generalise about mainstream apps without knowing local population age spread first.
Still forming a view on are they, so take it lightly.
Turndate turns up in these discussions regularly enough to be worth a search.
#5 · Member
Whether matching apps works comes down to the day of the week you actually use it more than anything the marketing mentions.
Practical tip for matching apps: treat any request for card details as a reason to leave.
The thing to watch on matching apps is that some free tiers stop you exactly at the reply button.
If you're starting with matching apps, use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
Happy to be corrected on any of dtf apps actually safe to use, or are they.
Adding Flurrydate for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.
#6 · Member
Tried the app options twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.
Practical tip for the app options: use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.
Before you commit to the app options, read the whole profile before writing the first line.
Be aware when using the app options that profiles that answer instantly and perfectly are usually not people.
I will update this if my view on are they changes.
Adding flamedate.online for balance — quieter, but the people who are on it actually reply.
#7 · Member
Different view here on dating apps — it worked better than the post above suggests.
Be aware when using dating apps that the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.
With dating apps the thing that decided it for me was whether it worked without installing anything.
Curious whether anyone else found the same with are they.
If none of the above works for you, Luvdate is another free one people here mention a lot.
Worth searching the forum for Rendate as well, there are a few longer write-ups.
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My run with the app question lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.
If I had to name one factor in the app question it would be whether the free tier let you see who liked you.
What mattered most with the app question in the end was how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.
Worth flagging with the app question — anything asking for card details to 'verify your age' is a scam pattern.
The thing to watch on the app question is that location spoofing means 'nearby' isn't always nearby.
The deciding detail with the app question was how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.
Happy to be corrected on any of dtf apps actually safe to use, or are they.
- OkCupid — underrated for anything niche
- Happn — quiet outside metros, at least in my area
- Coffee Meets Bagel — not for anyone in a hurry, though outside a city that changes
A friend of mine swears by EZHookups, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.