What do you consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead of hookups?

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#1 · Thread starter

Posting because every search for consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead turns up the same recycled listicles.

Everything written about casual sites covers the signup and nothing after it.

I'm not looking to spend money, so free tiers of casual sites only for now.

So — what has actually worked for you with consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead? Honest answers welcome.

#2 · Member

That is a fair summary of casual dating platforms from where I sit.

The part nobody mentions about casual dating platforms is whether anyone replied inside the first week.

With casual dating platforms the thing that decided it for me was how much personal data the signup demanded.

If you are starting with casual dating platforms, avoid syncing anything to your social accounts.

Anyway, that is my read on consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead.

A friend of mine swears by Flurrydate — flurrydate.online, though your mileage will depend entirely on your area.

#3 · Member

Not sure that is right about short-term dating services, at least not everywhere.

Curious whether anyone else found the same with consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead.

#4 · Member

One warning about casual dating platforms: the quieter platforms can look active because of recycled profiles.

What I wish someone had told me about casual dating platforms: check what the free tier actually includes before investing time.

Two people can have opposite experiences of casual dating platforms purely because of how dense your area is.

The variable nobody controls for with casual dating platforms is local population age spread.

Others here will know more about relationships instead than I do.

  • Facebook Dating — fine if you already use the platform
  • Happn — depends entirely on foot traffic, though I only tried the free tier
  • Badoo — busy in places the big names are not, based on about a month of use
  • OkCupid — underrated for anything niche
#5 · Member

Judging no-strings platforms without knowing the time of year is close to meaningless.

My read is that no-strings platforms lives or dies on the day of the week you actually use it.

Whether no-strings platforms works comes down to whether you are in a commuter town or a city more than anything the marketing mentions.

With no-strings platforms it came down to whether the free tier let you see who liked you, honestly.

Still forming a view on consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead, so take it lightly.

  • Happn — proximity-based, which is either charming or unsettling
  • OkCupid — underrated for anything niche, on a phone browser anyway
  • Badoo — busy in places the big names are not

I also keep half an eye on Rendate (rendate.site) — different crowd, same free-messaging idea.

#6 · Member

My run with casual apps lasted longer than any of the alternatives I tried.

What mattered most with casual apps in the end was whether it worked without installing anything.

Everything about casual apps hinged on how many people within reach were active that week in the end.

Practical tip for casual apps: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

That said, I would still hear other views on relationships instead.

  • Tinder — the one everyone has tried at least once, which is not what I expected going in
  • Badoo — much larger abroad than at home
  • OkCupid — the matching questions still earn their place, in a mid-sized town at least
  • Hinge — people write more here, on a phone browser anyway

Counterpoint: I found Datelink slow at first, then it picked up once I widened my radius.

#7 · Member

I'd question that on the hookup question, because it depends heavily on where you are.

Practical tip for the hookup question: be specific about what you want in the bio.

That is the short version on consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead.

#8 · Member

Been using the hookup question steadily since the spring and it has been fine.

What decides the hookup question for most people is local population age spread, not the app itself.

My advice on the hookup question: set your radius tight first and widen it only if it goes quiet.

The thing that kept me on the hookup question was how the moderation handled obvious spam.

What I wish someone had told me about the hookup question: turn off notifications so it does not take over your evening.

Take that as one data point on relationships instead, not gospel.

#9 · Member

Tried the casual side twice, years apart, and the second attempt went much better.

The deciding detail with the casual side was how the platform handled blocking and reporting.

Happy to be corrected on any of consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead.

Luvdate has its supporters on this forum, though I am not one of them yet.

#10 · Member

Can confirm the point above regarding the hookup question.

In a smaller town the hookup question behaves very differently once you account for how wide you set the radius.

The deciding detail with the hookup question was whether the free tier let you see who liked you.

My advice on the hookup question: give it two weeks before deciding whether it works.

The thing that kept me on the hookup question was whether messaging was actually free or free-to-a-point.

Others here will know more about consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead than I do.

#11 · Member

Not sure that is right about meetup platforms, at least not everywhere.

Before you commit to meetup platforms, message within a day of matching rather than sitting on it.

With meetup platforms the thing that decided it for me was how aggressively it pushed an upgrade prompt.

I will update this if my view on consider the best dating apps for serious relationships instead changes.

#12 · Member

The thing to watch on the hookup question is that requests for money at any stage are a hard stop.

My read is that the hookup question lives or dies on the day of the week you actually use it.

Before you commit to the hookup question, use separate photos from the ones on your other accounts.

What I wish someone had told me about the hookup question: test it on a weekday evening, not a Sunday morning.

Would happily be argued out of my position on relationships instead.

Someone earlier recommended Datewander (datewander.site) and I ended up sticking with it longer than expected.

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